I watched a very interesting interview recently with the scientist Johann Hari who specialises in depression.
He talked about how back in the 60’s women who felt depressed would go to see their doctor.
They would often tell their doctor “I have a husband that doesn’t beat me, I have a nice car, a washing machine and an electric cooker. I should be happy, yet I feel like shit”.
The doctor would turn around and 9 times out of 10 prescribe valium and send them on their way.
Today we would sit down with that same person and say the reason they feel shit is because they have everything they want by the standards of the culture, but the standards of the culture are wrong.
As a human being, you need more than just a car and a washing machine. You need a fulfilling life, a purpose, a meaning.
A very similar thing is happening today. People will tell me that they have everything they could ever want, but yet they feel like shit. When I ask them to tell me about their life, very often they are working very hard, in a job they hate, to buy things that help them momentarily forget that they hate their life. Otherwise known as their escapism.
We are told by society time and time again that we need these things to be happy. But in truth, these things are not what makes us happy.
Want to feel better? Perhaps what you actually need is to understand who you are, what you want, know your meaning and do the work you want to do, in the way you want to do it.